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New Pakistani Magazine Talks Sex and Sexuality

 by Danielle Maestretti


Tags: media, Pakistan, Chay, independent magazines, sex and sexuality, Muslimah Media Watch, In the Fray, Danielle Maestretti,

Muslimah Media Watch hipped me to Chay, a new online magazine that aims to foster discussions about sex and sexuality in Pakistani society.

“Pakistani don’t have a way in which to talk about sex that is not derogatory, abusive, or silencing,” Chay cofounder Kyla Pasha told In The Fray. “Far from sex ed in school or even the home, straight, young people aren’t even comfortable talking about being in relationships. The perils of that kind of silence are great.” 

From Chay's mission statement:

The taboo and silence around sex and sexuality are oppressive on all of us, irrespective of gender, and lead, at the very least, to unhappiness in our daily lives and, more often, to violence, shame, depression, ill health and general social malaise. We at Chay Magazine endeavor to bring to the Pakistani reading public a place to converse about those things we are most shy of. Our hope is that, through this, we can become braver and stronger, more powerful, self-assured, and just and fair members of society.

iqbal malik
8/22/2008 11:38:57 AM

hello


ahmed
8/18/2008 2:33:54 PM

I live in Pakistan, and I didn't even know about this! I'll have to spread the word. What this article should mention is that a lot of the reason there is a silence - a taboo - around the topic of sex is that this society has such a strict, repressive religious culture that considers sex before marriage a sin punishable by both Allah and society (or family) in no uncertain terms. In some areas of the country, even a rumor of a girl having non-marital sex is enough to get her killed, even by her brother or father. The rate of spousal abuse against women is between 80 - 90%, and rates of rape are also outrageously high (and difficult to prosecute; indeed, the victim often gets punished by the legal system). To be fair, it's not just Islam, or ultra-strict interpretations of it, that is the problem. Much of the sexism comes from other sources as well. Perhaps it's just ideology and the corruption of certain ideals. But the truth is that when it comes to male-female relationships, sexuality, and psychological balance, this is a very unhealthy society. I applaud this magazine and wish it great success. I would like to see it get into real print (even though it would carry severe consequences for the publishers and writers).