Change Our Story

Composer, author and philanthropist Peter Buffett on finding your own path to life fulfillment.

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Deflection or Self-Reflection?

8/20/2012 3:49:01 PM

Tags: Self-Help, Peter Buffett

Peter Buffett, son of billionaire investor Warren Buffett, is an Emmy Award-winning composer, NY Times best-selling author and noted philanthropist. Currently, he is releasing socially-conscious music and touring his "Concert & Conversation" series in support of his book Life Is What You Make It

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“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” – Carl Jung 

One of the reasons we keep repeating the same stories is because it’s so difficult to look at our role in perpetuating the disconnection—and pain that accompanies it—that keep the old stories alive.

Whether it’s on a macro or micro level, looking in the mirror can be difficult. Take a trip to the Pine Ridge Reservation (or any nearby prison) and then talk about American exceptionalism. Go through a difficult divorce or failed business relationship and talk about your role and responsibility in the breakup. It’s hard. And your friends and allies will rarely tell you anything other than what they think you want to hear. Of course, they’re trying to make you feel better—but are they helping?

You can guess my answer to that question ... no.

So where do we turn if we want to make the next step in our journey a little more fulfilling, a little more true, and ultimately, a lot more joyful?

Well, it’s going to start with vulnerability. That quality in ourselves that we started to cover up the minute things started to hurt. Little humiliations, big failures. They all played a role in how we built walls around the things we didn’t want to look at or thought we wouldn’t have to think about.

“Ignore it and it will go away” may have worked with an annoying bully in school, or a mosquito bite, but in life the words ignore and ignorance are just too closely related. We can no longer afford to turn a blind eye towards our role in the world we create. We must open our hearts to the pain that accompanies the first steps into vulnerability with the willingness to see ourselves as the creators of the story we inhabit—all of it.

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Image courtesy of Paul Keller, licensed under Creative Commons. 



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