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Composer, author and philanthropist Peter Buffett on finding your own path to life fulfillment.

Understanding Safety and Trust

Peter Buffett, son of billionaire investor Warren Buffett, is an Emmy Award-winning composer, NY Times best-selling author and noted philanthropist. Currently, he is releasing socially-conscious music and touring his "Concert & Conversation" series in support of his book Life Is What You Make It

safety and trust 

This is a song about safety:

“I Won’t Let Go” by Peter Buffett

From the moment we’re born we rely on someone else for our very survival.

If carbon is the basic building block of life, I believe that safety is the most elemental component in a relationship. It’s what we needed first – and what continues to be necessary in order to grow into who we become. “You’re so becoming” is my favorite compliment.

When safety gives us a bed to sleep in at night and animates us during the day we’re allowed to live with our hearts open.

And safety comes in many forms:

• Knowing we’re going to eat (at least 17 million children in the US don’t know where their next meal will come from, and 17,000 children die of starvation every day worldwide). 

• Knowing we’ll be safe from physical and/or emotional abuse (the numbers regarding how many people are subjected to abuse in its many forms—and its effects—are staggering).

• Simply feeling heard, knowing that your thoughts and feelings matter.

• Knowing that someone will always be there, which is comforting to say the least.

What’s keeping us from these feelings of safety? I would look to what generates and perpetuates fear.

Again, these things come in many forms, and range from topical saturation (the way we get our news and are marketed to) to systemic (taxes required to sustain the military industrial complex – a double dose of fear: higher taxes and annihilation). Meanwhile, pharmaceuticals are there to numb the fear and stress, which is very different than feeling safe.

How can we change the story—individually and throughout society—so more people feel safe and secure?

If the song’s ending surprises you, think of it as letting go—a “trust fall.” I remember doing that with my dad as a kid. Falling backward and believing he would catch me (he did!).  That is transforming fear (falling and getting hurt) into safety ... in the form of trust.

Visit www.peterbuffett.com and Change Our Story to learn more. 

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