Are You a Self-Improvement Junkie?


| 3/30/2010 10:12:00 AM


a woman standing in yellow stringsBefore yesterday, I never would have thought to apply the phrase self-improvement junkie to myself. But as I was reading about the I Am Enough Collaborative on the blog Notes on the Written World, I couldn’t avoid swiveling in my chair and staring down the prodigious stack of your-life-but-better books that I’ve got stashed in my cube.

I Am Enough is the newly born brainchild of Tracey Clark, a photographer and writer who has two motherhood journals published with Chronicle Books. It’s a response to her realization that she’d worn herself out “living the hustle to become better,” always striving for improvement, never feeling she was good enough. So far she has been updating weekly on Tuesdays (“maintaining feasible expectations for myself . . . is one of my recent acts of self-kindness,” she writes) and seems to be quickly lining up guest bloggers and storytellers. As she explains:

I have been a self-improvement junkie for most of my life; vigilant about getting to the bottom of my “issues”, digging deep to better understand myself, reading every book written to inspire personal growth, incessantly working on becoming a better person, etc, etc.  Although I had let go of trying to be “perfect” I was still striving to be better. Always better. Never quite enough.

. . . I have realized that I am not alone; that being enough as we are right now, today, as is, is hard for most women to really acknowledge and yet, it’s the key to living our best lives. . . . I can only hope that by sharing images and stories of worthiness and self-kindness that we can each embrace our own enoughness.

Source: Notes on the Written World, I Am Enough Collaborative 

Image by Michael (mx5tx), licensed under Creative Commons. 

jo an gaines
4/7/2010 11:54:27 AM

I just listened to Eckart Tolle's on the NEW EARTH. He is so inspiring in his deep simplicity. He speaks of how we are totally connected to the oneness of the universe and all of creation. He speaks of outer form and inner form. As one ages, the outer form begins to be less interesting to the aging person and that enables one to spend more time with the inner form. I have spent quality time with self improvement and when I like self improvement most is when I am in conversation with others who are brave enough to look at themselves, I never thought I was 'not enough' and that was never the reason I attended classes or read books or listened to CDs...I just wanted to be more aware of how awesome I was/am. I also loved connecting!! That was and is my reason for 'self improvement'...CONNECTION. I don't find many people very interesting who don't have CONVERSATIONS THAT MATTER. I host the community group for THE INSTITUTION OF NOETIC SCIENCE and we are all about questions and group creative answers. These groups are every where for the people who feel,'not enough' and those who feel 'awesome' and want to connect at a heart level with others.


jo an gaines
4/7/2010 11:54:03 AM

I just listened to Eckart Tolle's on the NEW EARTH. He is so inspiring in his deep simplicity. He speaks of how we are totally connected to the oneness of the universe and all of creation. He speaks of outer form and inner form. As one ages, the outer form begins to be less interesting to the aging person and that enables one to spend more time with the inner form. I have spent quality time with self improvement and when I like self improvement most is when I am in conversation with others who are brave enough to look at themselves, I never thought I was 'not enough' and that was never the reason I attended classes or read books or listened to CDs...I just wanted to be more aware of how awesome I was/am. I also loved connecting!! That was and is my reason for 'self improvement'...CONNECTION. I don't find many people very interesting who don't have CONVERSATIONS THAT MATTER. I host the community group for THE INSTITUTION OF NOETIC SCIENCE and we are all about questions and group creative answers. These groups are every where for the people who feel,'not enough' and those who feel 'awesome' and want to connect at a heart level with others.


Judy Johnson
4/2/2010 12:35:11 PM

I think that if you have the self-awareness Patti talked about above, then growth can occur naturally as you go through life. I used to put a lot of energy into self-improvement, as in "fixing" myself. Now, I put that energy into being happy and present in the moment and the things that were "wrong" with me are falling away naturally.