The Only Good Abortion Is My Abortion

The semantics behind miscarriage and abortion.

| September/October 2012

As I write this, it is 1:17 a.m. on Wednesday, June 20th, 2012.

I am lying awake in bed, trying to decide whether or not to have an abortion.

Of course, we don’t call it an abortion. We call it “a procedure” or a D&C. See, my potential abortion is one of the good abortions. I’m 31 years old. I’m married. These days, I’m pretty well off. I would very much like to stay pregnant right now. In fact, I have just spent the last year—following an earlier miscarriage—trying rather desperately to get pregnant.

Unfortunately, the doctors tell me that what I am now pregnant with is not going to survive. Last week, I had an ultrasound, I was almost six weeks along and looked okay. The only thing was that the heartbeat was slow. It wasn’t a huge deal. Heartbeats start slow, usually around the sixth week, and then they speed up. But my doctor asked me to come back in this week for a follow up, just to be sure. That was Tuesday, yesterday. Still my today. The heart hasn’t sped up. The fetus hasn’t grown. The egg yolk is now bigger than the fetus, which usually indicates a chromosomal abnormality. Basically, this fetus is going to die. I am going to have a miscarriage. It’s just a matter of when.

Because of these facts—all these facts—I get special privileges, compared to other women seeking abortion in the state of Minnesota.

Nobody has to tell my parents. I am not subject to a 24-hour waiting period. I do not have to sit passively while someone describes the gestational stage that my fetus is at, presents me with a laundry list of possible side-effects (some medically legit, some not), lectures me on all the other options that must have just slipped my mind, or forces me to look at enlarged, color photographs of healthy fetuses.

9/15/2012 1:39:48 PM

Thank you Madam for this article. As a man I shall never have to make a decision such as you are facing now. I simply can not imagine the agony and pain that will likely be your lot whatever that decision may be. There is a question that I have. In the article it is stated that, "Thankfully, I don’t live in a state where she(the OB/Syn) can legally lie to me about the status of my fetus, to dissuade me from having an abortion." Can someone please tell me if it is possible that it is legal for a doctor in the USA to lie to their patients? I cannot believe that this might be possible.