Not That Book By Nabokov


| 7/13/2015 1:30:00 PM


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Lolita fashion

Tim White, PhD, LPC, NCC offers advice on family planning and parenting, LGBT issues, disability issues, education and work issues, relationships, ethics and "unusual" social issues. Send questions to Tim for future columns through his website.

Hi Tim,

I’m a 28 year old man with one sibling, a sister who is 16 and of course still lives at home. She is a straight A student and well-behaved, likes gaming and anime, but has taken up an interest in Lolita culture. From what I’ve read, it’s a lot of frou-frou dresses and girly pink bows and ribbons and harmless fashion. But, she has taken two part-time jobs and spends every dime she earns on these dresses. She has no savings, no car and is not even interested in driving. The only people she associates with are other Lolita girls, which is only about enough time to go to conventions for this stuff because she is always working to pay for it! I feel like she should be paying a bit more attention to her future than she is to some fashion crap but she is obsessed and refuses to talk about scaling back her purchases. This looks more and more like addiction to me, and wasn’t the book Lolita about a pervert who lusted after little girls? Should our parents be more concerned about her attending these conventions?

- No-Lita

Hi No Lita,