| 8/14/2015 1:21:00 PM


Tim White, PhD, LPC, NCC offers advice on family planning and parenting, LGBT issues, disability issues, education and work issues, relationships, ethics and "unusual" social issues. Send questions to Tim for future columns through his website.

I want to share some of the feedback from the column a couple of weeks back; at least the highlights, because there was a lot! It involves wearing the underwear of the opposite sex, in response to an original letter from a man who prefers to wear panties, among other things, but his underwear preference seemed to resonate with various readers. Mostly they were other males with the same preference, but we have one letter representing the flip side; a woman in briefs! So, forget London and forget France, this week’s theme is underpants! I am exposing you to a flashing glance at this once-taboo practice from the actual people experiencing it.

Hi Tim,

After reading your article today I felt compelled to share my story. I've got 40 years on the young fellow who had his first experience wearing his girlfriend's panties. I discovered women's underwear as a young boy and always wondered why "theirs" is so much more comfortable than "ours". Only when I became much older, I finally figured it out, I think. Women's clothing in general, and their underwear specifically, are designed primarily to be sensual first and foremost and then functional. Men's clothing is simply designed to be functional, period. I grew up wearing heavy, thick cotton jockey shorts that were miserable on warm/hot days, and chafed my inner thighs. Later I started secretly wearing my Mom's panties and bingo, I've been hooked to the sheer comfort ever since. Why can't men's underwear be more sensual? Probably because some guys would walk around semi-hard all day and our culture couldn't deal with it. Wearing women's hi-cuts or full briefs is a relief to wearing muslin-like shorts for men. No one needs to know, and my girlfriend isn't "threatened" by it (we go panty shopping together and have fun). There's a website called He Wears Panties, and a line of underwear for men on another site called "Manties". I encourage all men to give women's underwear a try, you'll be shocked at the difference after a full day's wear! p.s. "Boy Short" panties don't work (you'll figure it out). My favorites are Hanes Hi-Cut Micro-Fiber Nylon panties, and the Cadillac of panties, Vanity Fair.

Hi Tim,

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