With my ears sealed against the world, I felt the shock of each
step as my feet struck the pavement. I was so deep inside myself
that I didn’t immediately notice the woman stopped on the sidewalk
in front of me. Her lips were moving, but I couldn’t hear the

I was on my way home from a bar. Earlier, I had been kidnapped
by one of my periodic blue moods: a beguiling combination of
oppressive loneliness and claustrophobia at the thought of all the
human longing being played out in the towers and the streets, in
the privacy of little urban rooms. I didn’t have the patience for
reading, my usual strategy of escape, and I don’t own a television.
So I paced the rooms of my apartment, listening to Chet Baker
records until I tired of the repetition. I took my notebook and
went for a beer at McLaughlin’s. There was something soothing in
the voices, the clank of glass, and the jukebox’s moan, men and
women talking and laughing in the smoky intimate light. I could
never entirely rid myself of the hope that I’d find a beautiful
woman sipping whiskey all alone in the corner. Our eyes would meet.
I’d buy her a drink. We’d step from the frame of the Hopper
painting that was our lives.

She was never there, of course.

After two beers I shouldered out the door, back into the
midnight streets. The world had begun to veil itself in mist, and I
stuck my hands in my pockets to keep them warm. Tumbling stray
coins through my fingers, I came upon the little foam plugs I
sometimes tuck in my ears when I read on the train. What if I were
deaf? What would a walk in the street after midnight be like if it
were bled entirely of sound? I stuck the plugs in my ears to find

Now, feeling rather foolish, I re-moved them so I could hear
what the woman in front of me was saying.

‘I’m sorry?’ I said.

‘Pico,’ she said.

‘What?’ I said.

‘You’re Pico,’ she said.

‘Uh, no,’ I said.

She claimed she recognized me. She said I’d lived with my
girlfriend ‘over there,’ making a vague sweep with her arm. I told
her it was true that a year earlier I had lived with L. on 34th
Street, somewhat in the direction she’d indicated. But I now lived
alone, and my name was definitely Phil, not Pico. Seemingly
persuaded, she explained that Pico’s girlfriend would come to his
apartment at night, pound on his door, and shout at him. With each
word, I was more and more pleased not to be Pico.

I asked what her name was.

‘Michelle,’ she said, lowering her head, shifting her weight
from one leg to the other, back and forth in a slow, scissoring
motion. She was thin, chocolate-skinned, late twenties I guessed.
She wore white tennis shoes and white socks, black shorts, and a
light rain jacket. She had a gym bag hooked over one shoulder. Her
short hair was pinned flat to her head. I noticed she had nice legs
and small, girlish breasts.

We stood silently for a moment, unable to turn away, yet unsure
how to continue our accidental conversation. Her odd mixture of
shyness and forthrightness gave her a coy, flirtatious charm. The
two elements seemed to be at war on her brow, and I waited to see
which one would win.

Finally she said, ‘So, Phil-not-Pico, what you been doin’

I told her I’d had a beer at a place up on Broadway.

‘I’m goin’ to have a beer, too,’ she said. ‘My girlfriend say
she meet me in the park. You know Socrates Park?’


‘She say she get some beer and wait for me there.’

She looked down again, scraped one foot across the sidewalk,
making a Z with the point of her toe. Both of us followed it with
our eyes. Mine lingered on her leg a moment too long, and when I
looked up again she was smiling at me.

‘So you don’t got no girlfriend?’ she asked.

‘No, not really. I mean, I’m not sure. There’s this woman . . .
it’s a long story. The short answer is, I don’t think so.’

I asked if she had a boyfriend.

‘Naaaw,’ she said. ‘He kicked me out. Kept all my furniture,
too. He won’t even let me in to pick up my clothes. He afraid I’ll
take everythin’ and leave him with nothin’. And I should, too,
’cause it’s all mine. He know none of it his. My money paid for

‘That’s terrible,’ I said.

‘Yeah, it’s all confused. I moved back in with my mom awhile.
But she get all moody and sad. She forget to take her pills and
then she just not right. She start whinin’ and cussin’ and feelin’
sorry for herself, and she won’t stop. She make you feel like it’s
all your fault. She got diabetes and a bad heart. I had to get out
‘fore I hauled off and smacked her one. Since then I been stayin’
with a girlfriend, you know, in the praahhjects.’ She
stretched out this last word, seeming to mock both her own
situation and the white imagination that gave the term its
stigmatizing power. ‘We don’t get along no more. She get mean. She
only really good to be around when she first start drinkin’.’

She shifted the gym bag from one shoulder to the other. Through
the unzipped opening I saw what looked like the elastic band of a
pair of cotton panties. Later, I wondered if it wasn’t the glimpse
of her underwear that made me say what I said next.

‘You need a place to stay?’

She shrugged, noncommittal.

‘Consider it a standing offer.’ I tore a piece of paper from my
notebook and wrote my number on it. ‘If you’re ever in a pinch,
just give me a call and you’ll have a place.’

She took the paper from my hand.

‘You don’ even know me,’ she said.

‘I do now, don’t I?’

‘Phil,’ she said, reading aloud.

‘Michelle,’ I said.

We both smiled.

‘I goin’ to call you.’


‘I mean I may need a place tonight.’

‘If so, you know what to do.’

I turned to walk away, but she called my name.

‘You live close by?’ she asked.

‘Three blocks this way,’ I said, pointing down the street.

‘I tellin’ you,’ she said, waving the scrap of paper under the
street lamp.

‘I’ll be there,’ I said.

Two years of nine-to-five had tamed my undergraduate hope of
changing the world. I had seen such disillusionment in the adults
around me all my life–despising them for it, in fact–yet I tried to
be amazed at how quickly my own idealism had been eroded by routine
and a middling salary.

Unlike my colleagues at the office, however, I hadn’t let my
privilege steel me against those who didn’t share it. The fact was,
I had more or less blundered into my current position–the usual
striver’s tale of desperation, luck, and a single useful
connection. My memories of waiting in line with my mother at the
town hall for a handout of government cheese were still nearly as
real to me as my copyediting duties at The Wall–Adventures
in Capitalism!–Street Journal.

Although my politics were vaguely socialist, I understood more
clearly than ever the seduction of a philosophy of rational
markets. The tentacles of the system had begun to fasten themselves
on me. I now had a 401(k) account, and I could see how easy it
would be to lose oneself inside a private reverie of corporate
dividends and compound interest, mutual funds, bond prices, IPOs,
and ten-year Treasury notes.

The Journal focused on titans of commerce and empire. I
worked in the midst of intelligent and well-meaning adults who
believed it was downright immoral to help people, because charity
merely encouraged an unhealthy dependence. I read these sentiments
in the editorial pages–read them more religiously than did the
converted, believing that to ignore them was a supreme act of
naïveté–and I stewed and fulminated privately. So privately, in
fact, that when I was promoted from copy boy to editor on the arts
page and took up residence in the same precinct as the editorial
writers, it was assumed by many that I was a fellow-traveling
reactionary. I quickly found it necessary to make a small but
visible statement of dissent, so I tacked a poster of Ralph Nader
to the wall of my cubicle. It seemed to create a dead zone around
my desk. Those few of my colleagues who dared to make small talk
with me did so in a conspiratorial whisper.

Still, a purely symbolic resistance would not, I concluded,
suffice. Sure, I could surreptitiously publish book reviews in
obscure leftist journals, but what difference would that make? I
had long since admitted that I didn’t have the temperament for the
theatrics of civil disobedience. I was not, by nature, an organizer
or an activist. My zone of humane rebellion, I decided, would be
that ill-defined borderland between the public and the private
where so much of daily life plays out–especially for those of us
who live amid the density of the world’s great teeming cities.

Michelle was the first person I engaged in that unmapped

I took the stairs two at a time and locked the door behind me.
My first thought was that she wouldn’t come. It was all a little
game. But if so, it was one that had me–there was no other word for
it–aroused. I began to imagine the age-old scenario of a woman in
need and a cynical benefactor willing to trade on his good deed:
her supple, supplicant body in bed next to mine, the voracious
yearning of the flesh.

Clearly these were not the musings of a freelance social worker.
I went to the bathroom, splashed water on my face, and tried to
think of it another way.

Suppose she did come. Suppose she rang the bell, and I buzzed
her in, and when I opened the door she appeared to be alone. But
suppose that before I locked the door a man who’d been hiding
around the corner kicked it in my face. Suppose they subdued me,
bound and gagged me, taunted me, laughed, and pissed on my head.
Suppose they boiled a pot of water and slowly dribbled it onto my
arms and neck, then stole what little I had worth stealing. Or
suppose they piled all my books in the middle of the kitchen and
lit them in a giant bonfire.

I fumbled for a cigarette. She does not know where you live. Let
the telephone ring. Better yet, turn off the ringer and the
answering machine and crawl into bed. Pretend you never met

I paced: kitchen, living room, bedroom; bedroom, living room,
kitchen. Ten minutes passed. Twenty. I finally did what I told
myself I must. I turned off the ringer and the machine. I stripped
to my boxer shorts and got into bed. My heart thumped against my
ribs like a pneumatic jackhammer. I stared unblinking at the
ceiling and tried to steer my imagination away from a combustible
mix of sexual fantasy and racial paranoia.

I thought of the night my mother called me and told me she was
worried about my brother. He had broken up with his girlfriend. He
sounded depressed. She was sure he’d be fine in time–maybe they’d
even work it out, get back together–but that night, she told me, it
might help if he heard my voice. She had told him I was moving to
New York, and he said he hadn’t even known. We hadn’t talked in
months; we were brothers in our early twenties, living on opposite
ends of a vast country and we had better things to do.

I hung up the phone and thought, yeah, I’ll call him–but later
in the week. I’d arrived in New York that very day and hadn’t seen
L. in months. We were finally back together, and I was intent on
cherishing her. My silly kid brother and his silly love life would
wait. After I took a few days to get settled, I’d call and get the

As it turned out, he couldn’t wait, and I got the news from my
father the next afternoon. Late the previous night, deep inside a
fugue of self-pity, fueled by a bottle of scotch, my brother had
put a hunting rifle to his temple and shot a hole through his

Imagine that.

Imagine my guilt, the second-guessing, the bitter rages, and the
quiet, endless despair. Imagine feeling you might as well have
pulled the trigger on him yourself.

I got out of bed and turned the ringer back on. Ten minutes
later Michelle called, and I gave her directions.

Outside my building, I positioned myself in such a way as to see
her before she could see me. If some menacing accomplice was with
her, I could either slip back into the building unnoticed or slip
around the corner down the avenue.

I waited. The mist had dissipated. All was quiet save for the
faint swish of tires on wet pavement. I dug in my pocket for a
cigarette and matches. There was comfort as always in the little
ritual, the dry paper on the lips and the match’s flick and

After a few minutes I saw, far off down the next block, a pair
of white shoes and white socks moving. As they came closer their
wearer emerged, too. She was alone. I took another calming drag on
my cigarette. She was walking fast.

‘Peekaboo!’ she yelled from across the street. ‘I see you!’ I
stepped out onto the sidewalk. She crossed the street and gave me a
quizzical look as she approached. ‘You gonna scare people lurkin’
in doorways like that.’

I released a little nervous laugh and held the door for her. As
we climbed the stairs, I adjusted the bulge in my pants to make it
less conspicuous. It occurred to me that a man might find it
convenient to cast doubt on another’s motives precisely in those
moments when he couldn’t trust his own.

She dropped her bag and sat on the couch.

‘You want anything?’ I asked. ‘Water? Juice?’

She reached in her bag and fished out a beer in a paper sack.
‘I’ll stick with this,’ she said.

She took a long swallow. ‘Can I have a cigarette?’

I offered one and lit it for her. She blew a plume of smoke into
the air, sat back, and crossed her legs. She looked older than she
had on the street. I revised my guess upward to early thirties, a
little older than me. She smoked avidly, bounced one crossed leg
atop the other, and looked around the room.

‘You got a lot of books,’ she said. ‘You read them all?’

‘Maybe half,’ I said. ‘Maybe a little more.’

‘You must be pretty smart.’

‘I’m not sure reading books makes you smart.’

We smoked one cigarette and then another, until the light in the
room turned faintly purple. She noticed a small bag of marijuana on
the coffee table. ‘You smoke weed?’ she asked.

‘Now and then,’ I said. ‘Do you?’

‘Not no more. I got to like it too much and smoked it all the
time. Made me lazy.’

After a moment she pointed across the room.

‘Say, you videotapin’ me?’

Atop one bookshelf was an old Bell & Howell Autoload 8mm
movie camera, probably made in the late forties or early fifties. I
used it as a bookend.

‘They don’t even make film for those anymore,’ I said, laughing.
‘I wish they did. Now it’s just a curiosity, an antique.’

‘Just what I need,’ she said. ‘Have some freak videotapin’ me.’
She went across the room and picked it up, turned it over in her
hands. It had a handle and a trigger like a gun. She pointed it at
me with an exaggerated air of menace.

‘To film something you would just hold down the trigger,’ I
said. ‘If you let up it stopped filming.’

‘Heavy sumbitch,’ she said. She placed it back on the shelf and
sat down again. But she couldn’t take her gaze from it. She stared
at it for what seemed like a long time.

‘That big eye, or whatever you call it, makes me nervous. Like
someone’s watching me.’

‘Lens,’ I said.

‘Gives me the creeps,’ she said. ‘Lens. Whatever.’

I went over to the shelf and turned the camera to face the wall.
I understood a thing or two about paranoia, and I didn’t want to
encourage hers.

‘Maybe you want to take a hot shower,’ I said.

‘Sounds nice.’

I took a fresh towel from the closet and set it on the edge of
the sink. After I heard the water turn on, I sat down on the futon
next to her coat and lit another cigarette.

One pocket of her coat lay open like a great gaping mouth, an
invitation. With hardly a moment’s hesitation I reached into it. I
found a scrap of paper with an anonymous address written on it, a
payroll stub for a man named Gerald, a Trojan condom in a creased
wrapper indicating long transport without use. I wondered whether
it would be safe to wear it anymore.

The other pocket held nothing. I went next to her bag. In it
were a pair of scuffed, black, high-heeled shoes, a blouse, a pair
of underwear, an empty paper bag damp with beer, and a small black
notebook. I held the notebook in my hand. Everything else I’d
touched was a practical object with a clear purpose, while the
notebook was a thing of mystery, capable perhaps of revealing some
aspect of her private life. But even as I violated her privacy, my
conscience was calibrating degrees of violation, and I finally
thought better of it and put it back.

I suddenly felt dirty and ashamed. I sniffed my hand, which
smelled of stale beer. I went to the kitchen sink and washed up to
my elbows with dish soap, more out of a desire to absolve the
instruments of my transgression than to stave off unwanted

She came out of the bathroom wearing nothing but the towel. She
held a damp pair of underwear and two damp socks.

‘Can I put these someplace to dry?’ she asked. There was neither
shame nor coyness in her expression. It was as if she had asked me
what time it was. Adopting a similar nonchalance, I arranged an
electric fan in front of a desk chair, over the back of which she
draped the socks and underwear. Then she sat down, put her feet up
on the coffee table, and lit another cigarette.

There was a scar just beneath her clavicle. It looked like a
bright pink worm crawling toward her shoulder. She noticed me
staring at it.

‘This here’s a gift from my dad,’ she said, tracing it with her
index finger. ‘He came home drunk and dinner wasn’t ready. He threw
me across the room. I ain’t seen him in fifteen years. But this
don’t let me forget him.’

She said that her mother and father were both alcoholics. Her
father was given to indiscriminate spasms of violence. Her mother’s
temperament was sullen and submissive–she never uttered a word of
protest against the beating of her children.

Michelle fell in love with a neighborhood boy when she was
seventeen and moved out of her parents’ place to live with him. She
got pregnant shortly thereafter and had a son. Then she had a girl
and another boy. She confessed that, at the time, she had been
drinking too much. ‘Hittin’ the hooch,’ she called it. After one
bleak episode during which she blacked out, her boyfriend left with
the kids and later sent them to live with his mother in
Pennsylvania. Michelle visited them a few times there, but she’d
been made to feel unwelcome, and after a while she stopped going.
She didn’t think her children should see their mother treated with
open hostility. She could imagine the things that were said about
her behind her back, for her kids seemed wary of her. ‘I been beat,
I been cheated, but nothin’ ever hurt me worse than that,’ she
said. She had not seen them in several years.

As she said this, tears glistened on her lashes. She sniffled
once or twice but kept the tears from tracing down her cheeks. I
wanted to reach out and touch her, as though my skin on hers would
be the perfect salve. She looked frail and small, clothed only in a
bath towel, her thumb incessantly flicking a cigarette butt. But I
feared that if I reached for her, she might take it the wrong way,
as if I were demanding her submission. And the sad thing was, she
must have expected it. Why else would she come out of the bathroom
in a stranger’s home with nothing but a towel on? That was her
tacit signal that she knew the rules of the game. Everything had
its price, and she had made her bargain. Or did she, in fact, trust
me more that I trusted myself?

Either way, there seemed to be nothing in the way of consolation
I could give. The only favor I could offer was to withhold my
impulse to reach out for her. And so I listened, nodding my head
from time to time, handing her another cigarette. After a while we
fell silent. I rose, went to the bedroom, and took the comforter
off my bed. I made up the futon for her, each crease and tuck a
kind of penance, a displaced gesture of the affection I dared not
show. She thanked me and curled up under the comforter. I turned
out the light, went into the bedroom, and crawled into bed by

Sometime in the middle of the night I rose and ran a glass of
water from the bathroom tap. I paused outside my bedroom door and
listened to her snoring softly. Such a soothing sound: a human
being near and warm and safe and at rest.

On other nights, when I wake suddenly in the dark, my thoughts
often turn to my brother. I find it impossible not to judge
everything I do now against his ultimate desperation. It is the
salient fact of my existence. My brother chose death over life, and
I could not help him. His decision has become an act of
ever-evolving significance, an echo set in motion that never quite
falls to silence.

In the months after his suicide I experienced a condition I can
only compare to quarantine. The shadow of my grief was so long that
anyone who came near me fell under it. Aware of this, and not
wishing to darken the hearts of others, I lived alone in a tiny
apartment, reading and scribbling in black notebooks, going whole
days without so much as exchanging a single word with anyone. My
loneliness was excruciating–but not so terrible that it compelled
me to risk infecting anyone I cared about. It was a kind of fear,
too. I didn’t dare reveal the enormity of my sorrow, which I
believed would not truly exist unless someone else observed it,
verified its existence–and if that happened, I thought, I might
dissolve in a mist of tears that would never cease.

Over time, starved for human contact, I tentatively began to
seek the company of strangers–men and women who knew nothing of my
past. Trained in the practice of journalism, I found it easy to ask
the most intimate questions. ‘Think of it as a ticket,’ my mentor
used to say about my reporter’s notebook. ‘Think of it as
permission to ask the things that everyone else wants to ask but
doesn’t, believing they’re being polite. Everyone has a story.
That’s the thing. And everyone wants to tell it to someone who will

I came to understand that the notebook was merely a prop, a tool
that induced an inquisitive and receptive state of mind.
Eventually, seeking to escape my own oppressive thoughts–which, for
several long months, perversely included suicide–I slipped into
that state as a matter of survival. I became a collector of
stories, boring toward the tragedies that lay at the heart of so
many human lives. On trains and in bars, from people I would never
see again, I heard stories of divorce and early death, abortion and
molestation, eating disorders, cancer, HIV. In some perverse way,
these stories eased my loneliness. They helped me understand that
everyone had suffered, and my own suffering seemed insignificant
for it. I turned out to be lucky, really: twenty-eight, healthy,
gainfully employed, a white-collar pilgrim from the prairie who
worked at one of the most venerable institutions of American
journalism, dealing with words for a living–a decent approximation
of the life I’d imagined for myself.

And there on the couch, this particular night, was a woman
without a home to go back to, separated from her children,
alienated from her parents, traveling toward God knows where with a
small black gym bag and a bottle of beer in a paper sack.

Some might call what I felt in that moment–standing in the dark,
listening to her breathing–a cleverly disguised version of
schadenfreude. I prefer to think I was moving–almost
imperceptibly, but moving nonetheless–along that tortuous path from
the most inward-looking self-pity to the most generous empathy. At
that moment, in the middle of the night, with a stranger sleeping
soundly in my living room, perhaps it was enough, finally, to find
myself equidistant from both.

I had wanted to wake early and go to the deli on the corner, buy
some eggs and bacon, make breakfast for her. But the cigarettes and
the beer and the late night of talking kept me reaching for the
snooze button. When I finally rose I had time only for a quick
shower. She was still asleep on the futon, curled in a little ball,
when I went into the bathroom.

After I shaved and dressed I noticed the futon was upright, the
comforter folded neatly at one end. I heard running water and
clanking dishes from the kitchen, and I was pleased to think of her
feeling at home enough to help herself to breakfast. I straightened
my tie in the mirror, pleased with myself, too: my benevolence, my
restraint, my delicate diplomacy across the borders of race and

Of course, I should have known this would be the last time I’d
see her.

When I went into the kitchen she was not boiling water for tea
or pouring a bowl of cereal, as I had envisioned. She stood in
front of the sink with a sponge in her hand, scrubbing my dirty

‘Please,’ I said. ‘Don’t do that.’

She turned, eyes wide, startled by my tone. I realized I’d
spoken with a harshness I hadn’t intended. She finished rinsing the
bowl in her hand, placed it on the rack, and turned off the

‘Sorry,’ she said. ‘I was just tryin’ to help.’

From the literary journal The
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from the University of Georgia, Athens, GA 30602.

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